Nonverbal Communication

There are varying statistics about what percentage of communication is body language, but they almost all agree that body language dominates over words. This includes posture, gestures, expressions, and eye movement. People send and interpret these signals mostly subconsciously. This is also true for Alzheimer’s patients. Patience and an open mind is essential in caregiving. If something is ineffective, try another method. Walk around the walls, there are many ways of approaching a problem.

Pulling from his own experience with caregiving, Bob Demarco writes on the importance on nonverbal communication. In his own experience, using positive language and tone, coupled with consciously using positive and inviting body language can make a world of difference. Demarco even suggests using as few words as possible, and making more of an effort with body language. Demarco also explains how time is different for those afflicted with Alzheimer’s. Alzheimer’s patients react more slowly to stimuli, it is vital that this be remembered when attempting to convey a message.

Palm open signifies a few things nonverbally. The obvious -- take my hand. The less obvious but powerful nonverbal communication -- I am receptive to you, I like you. That is right. When a person is talking to you and they open their palms out toward you -- they like you, they are receptive to you.

Point counterpoint. When a person turns their palms out they like you. Lets compare this to when a person folds their arms across their chest, what does this tell you?

It tells you they are not receptive to what you are saying, they don't like what you are saying, and it is making them uptight. The exact opposite of the offering of the palm, the crossed arms mean they are closing you off. Back to mom, the open palm, and offer of my hand.

When I offer the palm of my hand and stand there silent and waiting it sometimes seems like I might be standing there for a very long time. In situations like this, time takes on a different dimension. So standing there for 20 to 30 seconds, holding your palm out might seem like an eternity.

If you are not aware of this "time dimension" it is easy to get stressed or to start reacting with your mouth. Persons with Alzheimer's react to stimuli slowly, in this case the offering of the palm.

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